“I’m all in.”

I win.  Sucker.

It was a charity tournament for a friend who was going to Africa.  10 guys at the table, I’m the only one left who isn’t family, and I wanna beat em all.  This guy had been trashing talking all night.  But he just made a big mistake.  It wasn’t that he shouldn’t have gone all-in.  It’s that he shouldn’t have thought his two pairs could beat my three queens.

The problem with most guys is that we don’t go all-in often enough.  We don’t commit 100% of our chips.  We don’t put it all on the line.

There are quite a few things in life that we’re missing out on in life because we’re too afraid, too stupid, or too lazy to go all-in on.  But here’s the problem:

We miss the full reward because we don’t make the full commitment.

When it comes to your faith in God, you need to go ALL-IN.
When it comes to your marriage, you need to go ALL-IN.
When it comes to your family, you need to go ALL-IN.
When it comes to your dedication to purity, you need to go ALL-IN.

Unless you commit yourself 100%, you don’t get to experience the joy of reaping what you’ve sown.  Of profiting on what you’ve invested.  But when you lay it all on the line, trusting God to take care of what you’ve given up, you find yourself doing what few people ever do- live a life of faith.  It takes balls.  It takes courage.  It takes commitment.  But it’s worth it.

Know when to yell “I’M ALL IN!”

That time is now.

Jay

“Cocky guys piss me off…it’s SO not attractive.”

I guess Shania Twain was right after all- we ain’t impressin’ them much.

Let’s get a few things straight:

-Your car isn’t straight out of The Fast and The Furious.

-You’re not August Rush, guitar-boy.

-Your band isn’t the Beatles, U2, or ‘the next Coldplay.’

-You’re not a gangster, you’re not a big pimp, you’re not a player, and you need to pluck that uni-brow.

-You don’t look like George Clooney and Brad Pitt combined.

-Your ’sexy five o-clock shadow’ looks like pubic hair

-Those aren’t abs

Interestingly enough, do you know what DOES attract smoking hot godly girls?

Praise of your character from other people.

So live a gentle, quiet, loving, humble, generous life.

Instead of showing off, live a life worth talking about.

Jay

And he took bread, gave thanks and broke it, and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body given for you; do this in remembrance of me.” In the same way, after the supper he took the cup, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood, which is poured out for you.” Luke 22:19-20

There are two special traditions in Christianity that I love. Baptism and The Lord’s Supper. As far as I know they are the only two requests of Jesus that seem almost arbitrary. Jesus requests and commands are usually practical, ethical or moral. For instance- Jesus once asks “Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?!” (Matthew 6:27).

But here we have a simple request with no real implications. So it seems! “Do this in remembrance of me”. Do you ever forget Jesus? Do you ever let Him down? Have you ever taken His spirit and His name to regrettable places?

I know I have and do. There are times when all I feel is that sting of what I could, or should have done. But I know that heaping on guilt for failure is not His style.

In the book called Exodus we are told of a people under slavery.  They are oppressed and beaten down.   They cannot pursue life or God. At the very beginning of this book it is written “The Israelites groaned in their slavery and cried out, and their cry went up to God. God heard their groaning and He remembered his covenant”. (Exodus 2:23-24)

After this God radically changes the Israelites world. He frees them. But they still struggle. They seem to continually forget God. Yet their entire history has been changed because of His action. Everything. And He asks them over and over to remember “who brought you out of Egypt??” Apparently to God, remembering is essential to living.

So if you call Jesus your Lord, or do not yet- Take Bread or crackers, and juice, or wine, or water and “do this in remembrance” of Him.

May you remember He will hear your groans and your cries, and lead you out of Egypt. May you remember He will never forget you. May you remembering Jesus gives you life.

Rich

I had a conversation last week with a 69-year-old man who lost his virginity at age 6 in a Quebec outhouse to a 7 year old Jewish girl.

Though he’d never admit it, it messed him up for life.

He estimated that he’d had sex with at least 35 women.

While engaged to his fiance, he was regularly sleeping with 2 or 3 different women at a time. He was married for a while, but eventually divorced.

I asked his opinion of marriage: “marriage is bull$#it, but living together is great.” Marriage has too many rules apparently.

I asked him what he thought of sex and women.  “F#ck or f#ck off, that’s my philsophy.”
Small wonder why she left.

He’s estranged from his daughter, and of course, he blames his wife for turning her against him.  He lives with a woman, but said if she ever asks about marriage, he’ll dump her in a minute.

Change your mind or your mind with change your life.  Don’t live in the outhouse.  Live right.  Let go of the past and its entanglements, and move on.  Learn God’s will for your relationships with the opposite gender.  Become a man worthy of the wife God has created for you. Enjoy a God-blessed sex life.  Don’t ruin dozens of women’s lives. Realize that marriage doesn’t have to be full of rules…marriage CAN BE the greatest experience of your entire life…if you bring God into it every single day.

This man doesn’t have much time left.  We’re praying often for him.  But what can I say to him?  What can I do?

Wasn’t that clip just wonderful?!

I am very sorry.  I need to apologize to you.  On behalf of a generation of married guys who dropped the ball.  It happened to me too.  No one told me.  So it’s understandable that no one told you either.

The temptation to masturbate doesn’t get any easier when you get married.

I’m (not) sorry if I just ruined the rest of your life.  I’m telling the truth.  Here’s why it doesn’t get easier:

Because putting a ring on your finger doesn’t keep you from touching yourself.

Imagine if a guy is used to sleeping with 5-6 different girls every single week.  Now imagine that this guy decides to settle down with one lovely lady.  How long before he gets bored and wants more variety again?

YOUR MIND DOESN’T KNOW THE DIFFERENCE!!!  If you go from ‘having sex’ with 3, 5, 8 different girls every week, to suddenly…one…the temptation to go back is HUGE.  You want the buffet again.  The variety.  The different scenarios that you played out in your mind.

Also- now your libido is roaring now more than ever before.  Your home alone more, and there’s no roommate to walk in on you.  You never bothered to deal with lust, so Satan is attacking more than ever.  You’ll lose, eventually.  And what about when you’re NOT having sex?!  (ps, did you know that you still have wet dreams when you’re married…more about that in a future post!)

What happens when she’s on her period?

What happens when you’ve been fighting for a week straight?

What happens after she has a complication with giving birth?

What happens when she goes through menopause?

What happens when her mother gets sick and she has to fly out for six weeks?

What happens when you’re away on a three week business trip?

Normally you’d just rub one out.  Now you’re married.  Whatcha gonna do yo?  Many married men go back to masturbating (including Hugh Hefner btw).

All that to say…DEAL WITH IT NOW.  Rip it out of your life.  Don’t bring it into marriage.  Get it down now. Get rid of that crap.  Live a pure life guys.

Jay

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